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Trying to Cope with an Addict or Abuser of Drugs or Alcohol? Now You Can Help Get Him Sober...
I'll Show You What to Say...When to Say It...Where to Say It. 
What to Expect, to STOP or Arrest His Addictive Behavior.
      
   

I understand you are in a predicament that you did not expect.  This was not your plan.  Well, I know how helpless and confused, hurt and frustrated, even guilty you feel.  I have been where you’re at in more ways than one, have done hundreds of counseling sessions with addicts and alcoholics, have seen thousands recover and I know what works.  I know the solution. I know that you love your spouse and want to get from under the horror of addiction.  Your marriage is important, and he’s great when he’s clean and sober, but you have to take care of you and your family. You can escape from the pain of addiction, of feeling unloved like "second hand Rose" even when all is out of control and it seems hopeless. My audio MP3's teach you what, when and how to communicate – what to say that will help  -  and they will guide you toward the SOLUTION.
                        REMEMBER: WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN DOING IS NOT WORKING!
THE GOOD NEWS - DR. BUTKINS CAN HELP YOU!
I am a published author, lecturer, therapist and researcher. In June of 1969, I earned an M.S. in counseling. My Doctoral Studies were at the University of Florida, where I studied Mental Health with a specialization in addiction. I am also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). I have treated thousands of addicts and their families. During my career, I supervised the suicide prevention component of a drug and alcohol agency in Niagara Falls, N.Y., held teaching positions and have conducted a private practice in Orlando since 1981.

Dr. Peter Butkins
   
WHAT DOES NOT WORK

Addiction creates seven (7) ways of coping that do not work.  They function as defenses and not ways to cope.  These are all included in my counseling topic on "Mis-Coping".  (Also included are ways to cope.) Five of the ways of mis-coping are:

  • Being addicted to out of control behavior.  This does not work
  • Coaxing, persuading him to stop or cut back.  This does not work.
  • Operating from fear. This does not work.  This does not work.
  • Fighting.  He will see this as a way to control him.  This does not work.
  • Justifying the problem.  This does not work.
WHAT DOES WORK

I HAVE WRITTEN 11 WAYS TO BE EFFECTIVE IN SAVING YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND YOUR FAMILY FROM THE RUINATION OF ADDICTION. 
Some of these are:
#1 Recreate the friendship.  This works.  I’ll show you how.
#2 Wake up every day (make this a ritual) and forgive everyone for their mistakes.  This works.  I’ll show you how.
#3 Take full responsibility for your predicament.  Don’t blame yourself.  However, if you have the guts to take responsibility for getting here, you can get out.  Only then can you get out.  Do it right now!  This works.  I’ll show you how.
#4 Set limits. This works.  I’ll show you how.
#5 Insist on enjoying life.  This works.  I’ll show you how...


The above techniques work. 
You will receive all of these 11 ways to save your family from the ruination of addiction in my counseling plan you can purchase below. You must practice being quiet more often but, when you do speak, make it powerful, without the flooding emotion.  Can you practice being a good friend?  What will you do?  How do good friends behave?  They practice non-judgmental caring and respect. Be a friend to yourself first !

LESSONS YOU NEED TO LEARN

Lesson #1: You have a right to take care of yourself and your family.
Lesson #2: You can get to the point where this is second nature.
Lesson #3: You have to follow a course of action that leads to success.

The good news is that these lessons don’t cost much.  The addiction does.  I can help you as soon as you allow me to.  All great people had coaches, mentors or teachers.  Why not you? 
My goal is to spend much time on the solution.  I am going to teach you, over a period of time, to talk, act and feel in a way that will make you successful.  You will have to commit to study and change.  And, of course, you know that I can’t possibly teach you everything you need to know on this web site alone. That’s why you need to buy the Counseling Plan below.  Do you realize that you’re spending incredible amounts of money on the problem right now? The cost of this plan is invaluable, perhaps the price of a life.  The cost of addiction: $10,000 to millions; The cost of the solution: $99.  However, it is the way to be free of the pain of addiction. An addiction is a problem that affects EVERY area of your life...the addict (and the family) is eventually ruined financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

FIRST, You must learn to vent.
SECONDLY, You must learn to let go of the pain and move on.
THIRDLY, You have to learn how not to recreate the pain.

Finish my discussion on this web site (it isn’t that long) or simply read the bullet points and you will become motivated and encouraged as I explain and teach you my course of action that works.

Begin with these three key points:

  1. You need to learn about addiction.  Accurate information can be healing.
  2. You need to change your thinking.  I can help you with that. Your feelings and actions will subsequently change without much work.
  3. You need to develop a support system of people who have successfully mastered this problem. I'll tell you where to find these willing people.

     Too good to be true?  Not really.  This plan has worked for thousands.  It will work for you if you commit to it and do not quit.

THE COST OF ADDICTION

 
Your Costs from the Addiction Include:

— Drug Money and/or Weekly Alcohol Bills
— Missed Job Promotions
— Misspent Money and Time
— Poor Financial and Work Decisions
— Time Missed at Work
— Loss of Jobs
— Paying for Car Repairs
— Domestic Violence
— Legal Fees
— Brain and/or Liver Damage
— Diabetes
— Divorce
— Hospital Bills
— Damaged and/or Lost Relationships
— Potential Loss of Human Life: Addictions Can Kill !!

 The cost of addiction is high and almost impossible to count.
Cost of solution: $99. 

 

MY PROGRAM TO HELP YOU BEGIN TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM

Many people, once in your circumstances, have restored their lives, stayed with the recovering addict and learned to live happily.  Others have left.  I have seen both situations and know that a spouse has a tremendous amount of power that is not felt nor used properly.  Let me show you how to use the power you already have. Can you care enough to trust and try something that works even if it means change?  That is what it will take. 

I’ve talked with many families and asked them what it was that made them successful in restoring the addict and the family as well. Two of those interviews are available in the plan you can purchase below. In general, they said that teachability and letting go of negativity, while having a support system, made a great difference. 

All of them also said that when they practiced self disclosure (the cornerstone of my Ph.D. dissertation on addiction), they saw a more relaxed home and better communication and openness from everyone.  You are capable of taking charge in solving this problem.  Some people in your life are probably not.  Will you take up the cause?  Start being part of the solution instead of the pain.  I remember that old muffler commercial that asked, ‘Pay me now or pay me later’.  In regards to a progressive (never gets better, always gets worse) addiction the saying could be:‘Address addiction now or it may be too late to do anything later.’  There is a drunk or a high that your loved one may not return from.  A simple click of the button below will get you my program, so you can start to address the addiction and the problems the addiction creates. My program includes:

     
 


MP3 Player Included!


 
  • 10 HRS. of audio COUNSELING on an MP3 player(included)
  • Access to MyFreedomQuest.com as a member
  • FREE one-year monthly e-newsletters from Dr. Butkins

    FOR ONLY $129.95 (plus s/h)
    You receive the equivalent of thousands of dollars in counseling alone !!

    What are you paying now for the addiction?
    What will counseling cost?
    One DUI can cost you over $10,000
    The cost of a human life renewed is priceless!

    You do not need a Paypal Account to purchase this plan.
    You can use any of these major credit cards or a check at Paypal.
   

 
   
   


READ THESE PERSONAL TESTIMONIES FROM DR. BUTKINS' CLIENTS

“I met Dr. Butkins when I went to a counseling session with my alcoholic husband about 2.5 years ago. He is a highly skilled professional and is very knowledgeable on the disease of alcoholism and its affect upon the families of alcoholics. When we met, I was sick with worry and fear, angry, and unhappy. Living each day in fear of what awful thing would happen next, both my mental and physical health were beginning to suffer.

When my husband went off to a rehabilitation center, I continued to see Dr. Butkins. As he challenged my thinking and attitudes and encouraged me to recognize and deal with my feelings, my mind began to open and allow me to look at life situations and the disease of alcoholism in ways that would never have occurred to me on my own. He sent me to Al-Anon where I found other people affected by a loved one’s alcoholism that were working the 12 Steps and willing to help me in my recovery. Today, there is less worry and fear in my life and more serenity. I know that Dr. Butkins’ skill, wisdom, and compassion guided me to this better way of living. I will be forever grateful.” Karen, Lake Mary, Florida Dr. Pete probably saved my life 7 months ago when I came to him in October, 2005. He has a great talent in evaluating problems and making you aware of them. He has helped me turn my life around and helped me see things about myself that I have been able to work on; he also helped me help others. It is the best money I have spent in many years. Thank you for being there for me. Richard A. March, 2006

Dr. Butkins has been treating me since I was in middle school; later on at 19, (he helped me again) I had to see someone I felt comfortable with. He talks to me like a friend, not a doctor. I choose him over any other (counselor) because I look forward to seeing him; he’s just like one of my own friends. He’s very real, but not in your face;he doesn’t sugarcoat, but he’s very understanding and kind. He will help you make progress through anything and leave you feeling better than when you came in. Jerry K. April 2006

Dr. Butkins is the best thing that ever happened to me. I would have been dead a long time ago if it were not for him. I drank way too much and wanted to die. He has brought me through a lot; because of him I can handle anything and I love myself today. Janie D. April, 2006

Dr. Peter Butkins has provided much needed support and direction during emotional turmoil in my life.
Ken H. - Longwood, FL April, 2006

Dr. Butkins is an amazing guy. He has helped me so very much. When I first came to him I was ready to give up on life. With his help and guidance I pulled myself up. I’m now accepting a full paid scholarship to Stetson. Dr. Butkins saved my life. Thanks for everything. Ann A. - Orlando, FL April, 2006
 
 

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